The below is quoted from a book that I just finished reading after enduring my own hard-won wisdom for living a better life. The details are not important, but the lessons are. Reading this book was like having my own personal mentor, my own personal coach and guide to push me through the struggle by tapping into resilience. As entrepreneurs, we are always on the ‘frontline’ and the below wisdom nuggets are from the book RESILIENCE: HARD-WON WISDOM FOR LIVING A BETTER LIFE by ERIC GREITENS, NAVY SEAL which I highly recommend if you are trying to push through your own struggle, no matter how big or small; it’s still a struggle and there is a reward at the end of road if you do the work …
As a Navy SEAL, you understood the word ‘frontline’ to mean the place where you met the enemy. The frontline was where battles were fought and fates decided. The frontline was a place of fear, struggle and suffering. It was also a place where victories were won, where friendships of a lifetime were forged in hardship. It was a place where we lived with a sense of purpose.
But ‘frontline’ isn’t just a military term. You have a frontline in your life now. In fact, everyone has a place where they encounter fear, where they struggle, suffer and face hardship. We all have battles to fight. And it’s often in those battles that we are most alive: it’s on the frontlines of our lives that we earn wisdom, create joy, forge friendships, discover happiness, find love, and do purposeful work. If you want to win any meaningful kind of victory, you’ll have to fight for it.
The world needs what you have to offer. But because you’ve been wrestling with these demons and have been churned and turned and knocked around by your own pain – by the resistance that you’ve put in your own path – we’re all weaker for it. And that, my friend, is bull. You’re capable of more than you’re living right now. I’m hoping that as we knock these letters back and forth, they’ll help you turn the pain you experience into the strength, wisdom, and joy you deserve.
It’s all about resilience.
Resilience is the virtue that enables people to move through hardship and become better. No one escapes pain, fear, and suffering. Yet from pain can come wisdom, from fear can come courage, from suffering can come strength – if we have the virtue of resilience. People have known this for thousands of years. But today a lot of this ancient wisdom goes unheeded.
… I have heard one thing over and over again: their moments of darkness often led, in time, to their days of greatest growth.
Pain can break us or make us wiser. Suffering can destroy us or make us stronger. Fear can cripple us, or it can make us more courageous. It is resilience that makes the difference.
Resilience is the key to a well-lived life. If you want to be happy, you need resilience. If you want to be successful, you need resilience. You need resilience because you can’t have happiness, success, or anything else worth having without meeting hardship along the way.
To master a skill, to build an enterprise, to pursue any worthy endeavor – simply to live a good life – requires that we confront pain, hardship, and fear. What is the difference between those who are defeated by hardship and those who are sharpened by it? Between those who are broken by pain and those who are made wiser by it?
To move through pain to wisdom, through fear to courage, through suffering to strength, requires resilience.
The benefits of struggling – of being challenged, afraid, pained, confused – are so precious that if they could be bottled, people would pay dearly for them. But they can’t be bottled. And if you want the wisdom, the strength, the clarity, the courage that can come from struggle, the price is clear: you have to endure the struggle first.
Source: HARD-WON WISDOM FOR LIVING A BETTER LIFE RESILIENCE by ERIC GREITENS, NAVY SEAL
Of all the virtues we can learn, no trait is more useful, more essential for survival, and more likely to improve the quality of life than the ability to transform adversity into an enjoyable challenge.
– Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi